I felt the need to write this list after pointing out to myself several rules girls should follow when dating and crushing on guys. I know that we can’t always follow the rules, it all depends on the situation but I find these a good guideline.

1. Make sure you know your guy before you go out with him. You never know with guys and getting to know them first makes you safer and strengthens your relationship. Plus you get to know his flaws and such. I get bored with guys because I don’t do enough of this.

2. You can’t examine every little thing they do and expect them to do the same. The plain old truth is, boys are stupid. They don’t realize what they’re doing half the time and you really shouldn’t obsess. I’m a super obsesser and it’s gotten me no where.

3. For every guy out there you date you are the rule. If he wants to date you he will make it happen and ask you out. If you hear a story about a miracle relationship, they are the exception that proves the rule and you are the rule. Except of course, for the one. To him, you are the exception.

4. DO NOT DUMP A GUY OVER THE INTERNET. Even the phone is more personal, and NO a text does not count. You’re going to kill the guy by doing this gals, trust me I’m not brave at all but you’ll both be better for it, promise.

5. When a guy dumps you, you are allowed to be upset but don’t let it turn you into a bitch, nobody likes that. As much as it makes you feel better to diss him, it’s not cool at all. How would you feel if he started dissing you after the break up? It sucks. So don’t do it to him, move on and show him your strength.

6. If your guy doesn’t make a move after a month, he’s scared. After a month all the “the guy has to make the first move” b.s. goes down the drain, got it? Take charge. That way the relationship moves along at a pace YOU are comfortable with. You have the control.

7. Being all “I love you!” “My girl rocks!” “Kisses, XOXOXO” on facebook or wherever is fine, but remember, it’s what happens in real life that makes a relationship. People can be really different on the internet than in person, braver, more likely to say things they don’t mean.

8. Make sure that you’re happy. Sure, a little fighting is to be expected, but if you would be altogether happier without the guy, then he isn’t THE guy. That’s what relationships in high school are about, beginning the search, sure, but mostly, having fun and learning about yourself.

9. Everyone has a busy life, we all juggle all sorts of commitments. But if you really like a guy, you’ll make space for him. You’ll find the spaces in your busy schedule and want to spend time with him, even if it isn’t every second of everyday. It’s the little moments that count.

10. He is not your whole life. When you get a boyfriend I know it’s exciting and you want to spend every moment with them. You want to talk about them all the time. But remember, you had a life before them and you’ll have one after. You can’t ignore your friends or fill your time with them talking about him. You can’t ditch your commitments for him. Make sure that your goals and values (cheesy I know) match up with what you’re doing. You have to plan so that you don’t miss out on the things you used to love. And always, sisters before misters 😉

I survived my first rugby game without a single injury! YAYS! No scratches or black eyes or anything! Not even a sore throat from yelling at fly half. I really like playing fly half, they didn’t think I could do it and be assertive enough but I think I did better than the first half fly half. Rugby is fun, despite what you might think. It’s a little physical but it’s more athletic and strategic. You have to be in good shape to make it work and be able to evaluate the whole field very quickly. I like the strategic bit, that’s why I think fly half is so much fun, you set everybody up.

That’s about all I have to say about rugby. It’s almost Christmas so everybody is in a frenzy. I hate anything Christmas related before December 1st, I find it inappropriate. But we’re into December now so it’s all tolerable. Personally, I like the sales. I decided to wait until after Christmas to spend any of my Birthday/Christmas money. I’ll have more money and I won’t have to worry about buying something that someone got me for Christmas. I really do love Christmas, it’s fun to see all my family, I like all the time together, it’s the one time I get to see them almost all year long. Plus of course there’s all the presents.

But what I’m really waiting for is 2nd semester, it starts in January after exams and it’s then that I get to date again. My mom is worried that I’m going to be a soul crusher and that I need a little time off from boys. It’s new for me to have the boys lined up one after another like I do. It didn’t take long after Will for a new one to ask me out. I really like him, too. Even though him and my friend Savannah almost had a thing. But it’s all good, everybody loves Savannah, she’s so pretty but so down to earth, I love her.

On the subject of boyfriends, I’m so tired of the drama people make up. I heard my ex was being pissy and decided to diss me when somebody asked about the breakup. I understand being upset but you don’t have to be mean. People tell me he has the right to make himself feel better but I don’t think he has to do it by telling people our old business. I hate drama. All of it, and I hate myself that I’m such a people pleaser that I care what they think but it’s true, I do care. Some people are just hurtful and they won’t make it far bringing other people down, you just gotta remember that.

I’m not having the best week. Though I did just get back from a thanksgiving break at the beach that was pretty wonderful. But my whole body is pretty much in pain. Firstly I have a cold and have been coughing, sneezing, and stuffed up the last couple of days. I have a black eye and popped capillaries in my eye from getting kicked in the face in rugby last week. I have a scrape/bruise on my elbow and a bruise on my shoulder from falling out of the hammock. I can’t sleep right cause I’ll lay on my shoulder of press against my eye or can’t breathe through my nose, suckage. Oh and me and my bf broke up. We weren’t really acting like a couple so I didn’t see the point. Another guy immediately asked me out and I kinda said yes but I don’t think I’m ready to go out again. Plus my mom said I can’t go out until 2nd semester. That’s probably a good rule, no more than 2 a semester. But hey, back to school tomorrow, I’ll just have to suck it up. But my hair also looks pretty, I straightened it and it looks really good. Well that’s it for now. I’m going to go post picks.

Today, I had to walk through a dodgy part of town at night, and passed a prostitute. I’m a rugby player and I was wearing my jersey, she asked “Hey big boy, you play sports?” I didn’t want any part of her, but wanting to be polite, I responded “Yeah, I play for my university rugby team, I’m the hooker.” After realizing what I just said, I awkwardly walked away. MLIA.

Today, while working at my job as the keeper for the lorikeet exhibit at the zoo, I got very bored and began singing to myself. The second I did, 5 birds flew to me and landed across my arms. The little girl who saw this immediately ran to her mom and yelled “You SEE?? Snow White IS real!!!” and pointed at me. Best moment of my life. MLIA

Today, I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me. She said no. Feeling hurt and confused I nodded and got up from kneeling, only to see her get down on her knee and propose to me with a ring-pop. I accepted. MLIA

Today I cut my leg on a chair at school and got blood on my pants. At least six of my friends came up to me and told me seriously that I had gotten my period, and one gave me a tampon. I’m a 15 year old guy… who goes to an all guys school… who is still wondering where Bobby got that tampon. MLIA.

Today, my friend was talking about a calculator he wanted. He couldn’t think of the word “calculator”, though, so he said, “I want one of those black things that does stuff for me.” Almost immediately, a shy kid in the back says, “What? A slave?” I still haven’t calmed down. MLIA

Today, some men whistled at me when I walked down the street. I’m a male. I felt pretty. MLIA

Today, a really attractive guy was working out in front of me on the treadmills at the gym. I used him as motivation to run faster, visualizing that I could reach him if I ran fast enough. He kept turning around to look at me. At first I was flattered but then I realized it was because I had been muttering “my precious” creepily under my breath. MLIA.

Today, my math teacher slipped and fell on the floor. Twice. The second time, the entire class stood up and burst into applause. As my teacher stood up, he said: “Thank you for giving me a standing ovation as I went down.” The vice principal walked in just in time and added, “that’s what she said.” MLIA

Today, in class, my teacher was taking attendance when he threw me one of my tops, telling me that I forgot it the night before. The entire class was speechless. Little did they know, the teacher is my half brother and last night was the end of my weekend at Mom’s. MLIA.

Today, I was in my dorm bathroom and someone had written ‘Pirates Rock!’ on the wall. I thought it was kind of funny. Then someone turned off the lights and I realized someone else had written ‘Ninjas are better’ in glow in the dark ink over top. So. Much. Win. MLIA

No glee this week! I was planning on watching it on my computer yesterday as we missed it being in the car all wednesday night but there wasn’t one! I’ve been informed that there was a baseball game on instead. Yes. Freakin baseball. WHO CARES ABOUT BASEBALL?!?! it’s like the lamest most boring sport ever. Nothing exciting ever happens and it goes on forever. I don’t understand how it ever became America’s pastime, but ti sure isn’t anymore. I would say basketball, football, and soccer are all more popular sports. Which is why I ask, who on earth would pick to watch baseball over glee? COME ON FOX! Glee has to have better ratings and a bigger viewing audience, put the stupid baseball game on Fox2 or something. *sigh* guess I’ll just have to wait for next week for a new Glee.

Speaking of disappointing television. Project Runway made me sad last night. I love Carrol Hannah and Althea. Everyone else is either bitchy or terrible. Logan was cute and really nice plus his design wasn’t terrible. Gordana’s thing was just ugly. All her designs have been boring grey or the same, variations on a knee length, strapless dress. Don’t even get me started on Christopher and his ugly ass crap. They’ve let him slide 5 weeks in a row. He’s riding on the stuff he did well the first five weeks but he’s just been a train wreck recently. I can’t stand him. In conclusion, they are both worse designers than Logan and deserved to be out before him but, alas, I am not a judge.

omg. I’m such a bad blogger. I let more than a week go by without posting, *gasp*. Anyway. My birthday went great, Davidson sweats and Sookie Stackhouse books for me! Not to mention some money from the friends and relatives. The sweats had to be turned in for a bigger size but I’m finally wearing them (mmm warm and comfy) and the books didn’t last long, finished the last of three that i got just today.

I’m at the beach now, in the old Jo-Ja II, hangin with the familia. My aunt Liz and Uncle John are down here with the twins too. They’re so big! and they have way more hair. Funny how that works isn’t it? It’s so great being at the beach, we got in at 10 last night, stayed up until 12 and then i woke up at 6:30, woo. I think I might have sleep insomnia or something. Lordy. But it’s still fun to be here with the waves and the sun and the sand. It’s one of my favorite places in the world.

But anyway, school was a struggle this week with midterms and all. I did pretty good on all but Geometry, I bubbled like 4 answers wrong, stupid bubble sheet… I should get a 5.0 for the quarter anyways. I should probably step it up on this whole grades thing or I might get complacent and get totally slammed next semester. Any way you look at it I’m probably going to get totally slammed next semester but hey, getting lazy isn’t going to help. I really do do too much crap. Between rugby, gsa, deca, student council, theatre class, youth council, disciple, and youth group, I’m a little swamped. But you know, life.

But hey, right now, for the next 4 days, I’m at the beach. With my family. and very little to do in the world. Except of course memorizing my monologue, and selling class shirts, and getting my reading done for disciple, and preparing for youth sunday night, and preparing myself mentally for a quarter of health with ms. johnson. Blurg. Screw this. I’m never going to have another relaxing moment ever.

There has been a lot of drama in my life recently, and I’m so over it. Since high school started, a lot of things have changed. People have come in and out of my life and naturally the people I know have changed, mostly in a positive way. It’s been fun meeting new people and making new friends but it’s your old friends you always rely on. Unfortunately, mine seem to be of the opinion that I am the one who has changed. To me it seems more like they have, my old friends never would have cared what other people thought of me. I definitely don’t, I’m going to be who I’m going to be and nobody can change that. It seemed like they gave me an ultimatum, change or we can’t be your friend. Well I can’t change so…. The light side is it has sparked a lot of support among my other friends. I really hope we can move on and get over this but hey, it’s all up to them.

This has been quite the punishing weekend, a dramatic saturday morning then off to the rugby match from hell. The result, a girl with a twisted ankle, a girl with an injured wrist and then little old me over here with a twisted ankle and scratches down my face. All the boys were very impressed. I think the ankle is going to get me out of rugby tomorrow and i might go to Piedmont instead. I miss all the people there, but somehow i’m a little scared of being let down by the old place. Like over the summer i’ve built it up in my mind and when I go it’ll just be a school. All of the spirit i’ve given it with my memories faded away. But then I know that the auditorium where I first started to find my voice will never be just a stage. I know that the halls where I spent three years won’t be just empty halls, they’ll be filled with the life of those who are now there, even if my Piedmont days are the ones I see in them.

Wow. I sound so….what’s the word? fake. Ah well. It’s the way I feel about the place, even if it was just middle school. Plus I want to go see all the old seventh graders and musical people. I want to see my teachers, not too many are left. All my sixth grade ones are gone. A couple of my seventh grade ones are around and a couple eighth grade ones. I’ll probably just make the rounds of eighth grade ones. Their the cooler ones, mostly. But the big teacher I want to see is Mrs. MacLeod. I’ll probably go visit her last, along with the musical peeps. But enough about that, I need to get the picks of the week up! (Featuring Avril Lavigne’s Keep Holding On.)

There has been something everyday this week. Theater class on Monday; rugby on Tuesday, not to mention my sister’s birthday, which means dinner with the grandparents and the davidson vs. duke soccer game (WE WON!). Then today a student council meeting. Tomorrow, rugby and finally a free day on friday. But hey, viva la vida, no day but today, carpe diem, all that good stuff. Glee was great today, though Emma and Mr Shoester need to get together and Finn and Rachel need to get together. It just needs to happen. Loved the girl’s Halo/Walking on Sunshine mix. Anyways, two steps back, the duke vs. Davidson game was amazing! I was tired but it was so much fun, saw tons of people including my beasting youth leader Pat and his adorable children. I have met my perfect man in his son, he is white blonde, cute, funny, and four. Perfection. Anyways, Duke was the number 6 team and Davidson wasn’t ranked, we won 4-1. It was an awesome game, those boys played their hearts out, special shout out to the super tall goalie! Blurg. I have to do a geometry project…super blurg. I really don’t want to but it’s due Monday, not to mention a Fashion Merch. test on Friday. Bleck, guess that’s life, just gotta take it day by day and survive as best you can. Alrighty that’s mostly it for the day. We’ll end with some rent lyrics, had them stuck in my head recently, need to rewatch the movie….

“La Vie Boheme, to days of inspiration, playing hookey, making something out of nothing, the need to express- to communicate, to going against the grain, going insane, going mad.”

-Mark(Anthony Rapp)+Cast of Rent

Tackling today in rugby! It’s awesome! Though my side did hurt after being tackled the first couple of times. I’m sore but I’m glad we did it. AND my mom found my cleats and my phone, YAY! They’ve been lost for like two weeks, I’m so glad she found them. Though I still need to find my mouth guard… Anyways. Last night was Glee! Somebody to Love was soooo great! I love that song! Last Name was good too, Kristin Chenoweth has got some pipes, too bad she wasn’t a permanent character. If Christian Siriano guest stars on glee…the world will end it’ll be so fierce. Speaking of Christian, I’m doing a project on him in Fashion Merchandising. His latest line? I die. It’ so gorgeous. I’ll post it under fashion asap. But the thing I was super excited about is that his book comes out this month! OMFG! I need it. it’s a must. case closed. It’s about looking, feeling, and acting fierce in everyday life. I need to bump up my fierceness factor, good thing the birthday is in 22 days, hint all. For those of you who don’t know, and shame on you, Christian Siriano is the winner and fan favorite of Season 4 of Project Runway. His tagline is FIERCE. He is my fav designer and Project Runway contestant ever. End of story. Alrighty, that’s it for today, Project Runway tonight, tomorrow’s friday and Katie’s B-day party on Saturday. Beastie next coupla days. Peace.

Man, rugby doesn’t feel this tiring when you’re doing it but golly I feel down now. I really hate cramps, last week I got this weird one in my heel. Blurg, they suck. I’m feeling sore already…this is gonna suck tomorow. At least it’s a short week since we had Monday off. I used it to lay around and go on a date. FAME is amazing! it’s so great, I loved it, might go see it again. Even the boyfriend liked it, but then he has two sisters. It was a fun date, at least I thought so. Plus a super relaxing weekend reading Sookie Stackhouse books. I love them too! Apparently there are like 9, we own three. But they are rather…risque? There’s lots of Sookie/Bill…alone time, let’s call it. But the story line is fun, I like the whole investigation part of it. I spent the weekend plowing through books 1 and 2. I need to find three so i can dig into it too, my mom got the first three for Christmas. I’m only a little surprised she’s letting me read them, like I said, risque, they even make me blush from time to time. But enough about that, Hell’s Kitchen is on tonight, then Dance and GLEE tomorrow. Ug goe homework sucks….but at least I have spanish done. Okay nighty night, time to focus on Hell’s Kitchen.

“Burn, baby burn.”
-Ash