I felt the need to write this list after pointing out to myself several rules girls should follow when dating and crushing on guys. I know that we can’t always follow the rules, it all depends on the situation but I find these a good guideline.

1. Make sure you know your guy before you go out with him. You never know with guys and getting to know them first makes you safer and strengthens your relationship. Plus you get to know his flaws and such. I get bored with guys because I don’t do enough of this.

2. You can’t examine every little thing they do and expect them to do the same. The plain old truth is, boys are stupid. They don’t realize what they’re doing half the time and you really shouldn’t obsess. I’m a super obsesser and it’s gotten me no where.

3. For every guy out there you date you are the rule. If he wants to date you he will make it happen and ask you out. If you hear a story about a miracle relationship, they are the exception that proves the rule and you are the rule. Except of course, for the one. To him, you are the exception.

4. DO NOT DUMP A GUY OVER THE INTERNET. Even the phone is more personal, and NO a text does not count. You’re going to kill the guy by doing this gals, trust me I’m not brave at all but you’ll both be better for it, promise.

5. When a guy dumps you, you are allowed to be upset but don’t let it turn you into a bitch, nobody likes that. As much as it makes you feel better to diss him, it’s not cool at all. How would you feel if he started dissing you after the break up? It sucks. So don’t do it to him, move on and show him your strength.

6. If your guy doesn’t make a move after a month, he’s scared. After a month all the “the guy has to make the first move” b.s. goes down the drain, got it? Take charge. That way the relationship moves along at a pace YOU are comfortable with. You have the control.

7. Being all “I love you!” “My girl rocks!” “Kisses, XOXOXO” on facebook or wherever is fine, but remember, it’s what happens in real life that makes a relationship. People can be really different on the internet than in person, braver, more likely to say things they don’t mean.

8. Make sure that you’re happy. Sure, a little fighting is to be expected, but if you would be altogether happier without the guy, then he isn’t THE guy. That’s what relationships in high school are about, beginning the search, sure, but mostly, having fun and learning about yourself.

9. Everyone has a busy life, we all juggle all sorts of commitments. But if you really like a guy, you’ll make space for him. You’ll find the spaces in your busy schedule and want to spend time with him, even if it isn’t every second of everyday. It’s the little moments that count.

10. He is not your whole life. When you get a boyfriend I know it’s exciting and you want to spend every moment with them. You want to talk about them all the time. But remember, you had a life before them and you’ll have one after. You can’t ignore your friends or fill your time with them talking about him. You can’t ditch your commitments for him. Make sure that your goals and values (cheesy I know) match up with what you’re doing. You have to plan so that you don’t miss out on the things you used to love. And always, sisters before misters 😉